When faced with controversial subjects one often hears someone spout the bromide, “Well, we must hate the sin but love the sinner.”
While this sounds like an easy and pleasant solution, when we press it, it proves problematic. First of all, we need to think about the final judgement. When it comes down to that grim reality God does not actually separate the sinner from his actions. The sinner goes to hell–not his actions. To be sure, God’s love for the sinner is boundless, but he does not separate the sin from the sinner. Can we? More importantly–do we?
You see, it’s all well and good to “hate the sin and love the sinner” when the sinner is a nice guy like us and we don’t really think his sin is so bad anyway. So, for example, it seems a pleasant thing these days to “Hate the sin but love the sinner” when the sin is fornication and the sinners are our nice niece and her boyfriend who are cohabiting. It is easy enough when the sin is sodomy and the sinners are Ronny and Randy–the “really nice guys” who have moved into the subdivision and serve on the HOA and decorate their home real nice at Christmas like everyone else. It’s easy enough to “hate the sin but love the sinner” when the sinner is the adulterer George who works in accounting and belongs to the country club and is always good for a round of drinks.