An error regarding vocations has become common among Catholics. Specifically, people have begun claiming there exists a call to the single life apart from a religious vocation. While there is no evidence of this “new” vocation in the Magisterium of the Church, it has persisted in its growth and usage due to the increasing number of unmarried Catholics and single adults that exist in society today.
In her article, “There Is No Vocation to the ‘Single Life,” Mary Cuff describes two groups of singles: willing and unwilling. The willing single, fine with their status, continues in it for as long as they see fit. The unwilling single, however, struggles with this condition and does not desire to be single. Most likely, it would be presumed, the latter person has not discerned a vocation to the religious life either.
I, too, was an unwilling single. I met and married my husband at the age of 42. Recognizing that something bigger was going on, I realized that the large number of single adults, inclusive of myself, were suffering from an anomaly known as “prolonged singleness,” rather than the establishment of a new vocation.