Healing for the post-abortive takes time and we can’t possibly bear it too quickly.
I’ve heard people say hindsight is 20/20. No one would argue 20/20 is great, but the vision of hindsight is, as the character Adrian Monk (from the show, ‘Monk’) would say, “It’s a gift…and a curse.” The curse in the equation is the memory of the struggles we’ve been through. More precisely, the choices we’ve made resulting in sin; often grievous sin. The blessing, which hopefully results in sharp-shooter vision, is looking back at where we were and learning from it, seeing God’s hand on us now,